IN A SOCIETY when everthing and everyone is somewhat based on sexuality, it leaves little room for those who subside from it. It is almost taboo to think that someone can possibly be entirely not attracted to sex and yet live a normal healthy lifestyle. With shows such as Desperate Housewives, Greys Anotomy, and hit reality shows like Flavor of Love, Rock of Love, The OC, and The Hills show constant struggles of relationships and different sexual incounters that may seem very awkward to us.
It is proven that about 1% of Americans are asexual, meaning that it would seem almost queer (something that is different from the norm) that someone would say that to another person. Some people may state that the person is just confused or havent met the right person. Which in some cases could possibly be true. Some of us go in and out of asexuality just as quickly as a person can switch from gay to straight to bi sometimes not necessarily in that order. Others may prefer not to take part in sexual affairs. Just because we are alone, doesn’t mean that we’re lonely. We still have close friends….and yes we still have sexual feelings and crushes. In retrospect, we do still hug and kiss but it doesn’t mean anything to us. Some may feel somewhat like an alien and agree to some “naughty” things, like spin the bottle or five minutes in heaven, in order to fit in and feel normal. This to teens like myself may feel like a piece of the jigsaw puzzle of pueberty that they can’t to figure out where it goes. But in the end. Maybe one day the media will put us out there more as a lable than an miscellaneous catagory.
–Amber
“switch from gay to straight to bi sometimes” you cannot switch sexuality! its not possible. If you dated a guy then dated a girl, your bisexual. You havnt switched from straight to gay. YOU ALSO STATED “we still have sexual feelings and crushes” which completely contradicts yourself and the whole idea of asexuality. Then you say “still hug and kiss but it doesn’t mean anything to us” well obviously it does if you can fancy someone. I think this asexuality is a load of rubbish, just people confused and wanting to be different. PAH.
Amber is not technically referring to a definite change in sexuality – not a switch from ‘gay to straight to bi’ but more a settling of sexuality, and many gay men have dated women, but that does not mean they are permanently bisexual, it means at that point they may not have found the right spot on the ’sliding scale’ for them.
Asexuality is a word that suggests a complete disassociation from sex, yes, but asexuals themselves are not completely removed from sexual feelings, they just do not wish to act upon them. Asexual people still have hormones, and their bodies try and do what is typical of humans, i.e. procreate, and thus the attraction.
Also, James, I assume you are a sexual being, and I possibly grasp from your diatribe at one, pretty much definite and non-fluid point on the sexuality scale, on which you have decided to lock yourself into, and as such are too closed-minded to allow other, non-sexual modes of being to be as valid as yours. It’s not that asexuals want to be different, its more that you don’t want them to be.